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2 types of behavior that often lead to divorce

Marriages end for a variety of reasons, but for many couples, it is not one specific event that precipitates the decision to file for divorce. Rather, it is a pattern of behavior that builds tension over time. Social scientists have identified two types of behavior that are particularly caustic to a relationship. The existence of either of these patterns should be cause for concern for Texas couples, as they are indicators that the marriage may be headed for divorce.

One pattern of behavior that has been identified as a predictor of divorce involves becoming stuck within a cycle of negativity. This occurs when a couple goes through a period of discord (which is a perfectly normal occurrence) but is unable to move past that rough patch and strengthen their bond. The next time an issue of contention arises, both spouses are still feeling emotionally charged by the former matter, and the cycle continues. Couples caught in this pattern have poor coping mechanisms in place to handle conflict or repair their relationship.

The other pattern is more insidious, and occurs when couples avoid hashing out their differences when an issue arises. By avoiding conflict and taking an "agree to disagree" approach, spouses begin to feel as though their needs are not being addressed. Tension and resentment builds, both of which are toxic to a healthy marriage. Eventually, one or both spouses decides that enough is enough, and moves toward divorce.

In many cases, Texas couples who recognize one of these patterns can work together to address the issue, and can save their marriage. That said, working on a relationship requires the active participation of both spouses, and is not something that one person can do on behalf of another. In cases in which one spouse is fully emotionally "checked out" of the marriage, divorce may be the best available option.

Source: businessinsider.com, "Psychologist says these 2 patterns of behavior are the most common signs that a couple is going to divorce", Erin Brodwin, June 11, 2015

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